If you're struggling with the same issues I am, the best thing you can do, for yourself and your children, is educate yourself fully. Books, whether digital or, you know, made of actual paper (remember those?) can give you more complete information than many websites.
Some of my readers have recently asked me for book recommendations. The following books are books I have read and found helpful. I don't know the authors and was not asked to list these particular books.
Have a book recommendation? Let me know. I'll read it, and if I like it, I'll add it to the list. Thanks!
Books for Kids
This is Gabriel Making Sense of School: A Book About Sensory Processing Disorder by Hartley Steiner. Great book for children and families with Sensory Processing Disorder. Truly a treasure to find a book that makes Little Dude exclaim, "that's just like me!" See my complete review here.
Books for Adults
Asperkids: An Insider's Guide to Loving, Understanding, and Teaching Children with Asperger Syndrome by Jennifer Cook O'Toole. This book presents truly unique insights; the author is a special ed teacher, a mom of three kids with Asperger, and has Asperger herself. Truly an "insider's guide." Read my complete review here.
The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndromeby Tony Attwood. This is a heavy read, almost like a textbook. However, it has the most complete information of any book available. A must-read for any teacher or parent who really wants to understand Asperger.
Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger'sby John Elder Robison. I love, love, love this book, which is written by a man who was not diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome until he was an adult. It's a great first-person account that really helped me understand what's going on in my son's head. Robison is brutally honest, hilariously funny, and a great storyteller to boot.
The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Completely Revised and Updated: Advice, Support, Insight, and Inspirationby Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara L. Kirby. This book was written by two mothers of children with Asperger Syndrome. It compiles information they've gathered from studies, personal experience, and the experiences of the many, many parents who come to the website they founded -- one of the first resources for parents of children with AS. I like this book because it gives advice on real-life situations from parents who have been there. Warning: Although the book is very helpful, on first read I found it depressing. We were fresh from the diagnosis and still had hope that Little Dude would "outgrow" his AS. This book pretty much crushed that hope. This book contains some hard truths, but ones I needed to hear.
The Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder, Revised Edition
and The Out-of-Sync Child Has Fun, Revised Edition: Activities for Kids with Sensory Processing Disorder
by Carol Kranowitz. I love, love, love these books. They are both packed with helpful ideas and really helped me understand sensory processing issues.