Hi there! Just a friendly reminder that if you leave comments that are hateful to one another, I will delete that shizz. Also, perhaps some people should consider trying decaf.
While I welcome feedback on my writing, suggestions for more information, or thoughtful opinions, I simply cannot stomach online bullying. If you are reading this, you are old enough to know better.
If you don't share my views on the Duggars, that's totally cool. I get it. My very good friend (who is far more well-read than me) at Mom-In-A-Million wrote a post that I love called "I Don't Admire The Duggars." I agree with 99% of what she's saying. Except I still like to watch the show.
I've temporarily enabled comment moderation until this dies down. Thanks for your patience.
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We have four kids, and that's plenty for us. We're stopping there. We live in a mostly Catholic town where no one bats an eyelash at four kids. Most of the people who grew up here in Vatican Hill, Pennsylvania have at least five siblings.
It's all over the news that Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar are expecting their 20th child. I care about this in the sense that it's fascinating, in the way reading the Guinness Book of World Records is fascinating. I mean, how many children can one woman give birth to before her uterus goes on strike?
Even if they didn't have their own reality show, a woman being pregnant with her 20th child is interesting fodder for a slow news day. With a reality show, it goes even more viral.
The thing is, I don't care. If Michelle Duggar wants to treat her vag like a clown car, that's her business. It's not like they've asked me to babysit their trillion kids. It seems that they don't take a dime in state or federal support. Jim Bob and Michelle seem like loving, dedicated parents. Their kids seem pretty much normal and happy, despite growing up in what is essentially a small corporation. In fact, in many ways they seem better-adjusted than my own kids.
Plus, Michelle has that awesome laundry soap recipe that I lurve.
I'm not a huge fan of putting kids on television, because they're not old enough to give consent. It's the same reason I don't use my kids' names on my blog, or use their photos. It's not fair to them. But the Duggars are a far cry from being the Gosselins. The're not even as nutty as the Browns from Sister Wives. Not that I care what the heck the Browns do in their bedrooms, but they're living a life that is actually illegal (whether it should be or not), and parading their kids around while doing it. It's got to be kind of awkward for those kids at school, no?
In fact, as reality show parents go, the Duggars are pretty freaking awesome.
Remember this game?
Let's play, shall we? First, the moms:
Now, the dads:
I don't share the Duggars' religious views. I also don't share their desire to populate the earth with as many mini-me's as possible. But I do respect their right to knock themselves out trying.
Yes, Michelle Duggar's pregnancy is high-risk. So were all three of my pregnancies: my first (twins, and then pre-eclampsia), my second (VBAC), and my third and last (pre-eclampsia, emergency c-section). Michelle says she is exercising, eating right and napping daily to keep her strength up and honestly the fact that a mom of 19 is able to find time to nap shows me that she has got her act together. (That and she's got half a dozen built-in babysitters, but whatevs.)
Lots of other risks go up with age and having had so many pregnancies. One doctor told me to make sure I took a calcium supplement because my "serial pregnancies" can deplete the minerals from your bones. Michelle is also at higher risk to have a baby with special needs. That seems to be a chance the Duggars are willing to take, and frankly I think they'd do a bang-up job of raising a special needs child.
Okay, so maybe I do care. I care exactly enough to wish Michelle Duggar a happy and healthy pregnancy.
Best wishes, and thanks for the laundry soap recipe, Michelle.