On Friday's post, The Top Ten Things I'm Aware of About Autism, a commenter wrote:
Anonymous said...On my previous post, Bittersweet, a commenter, probably the same person (note the times), wrote:
I think that autism is diagnosed too easily...I really don't think social-awkwardness is a disease...some people are just a little different...
April 3, 2011 12:45 AM
Anonymous said...I did at first, wonder if they were a joke. I mean, really? Or that possibly this reader is confusing some of my posts about Cookie, who specifically has anxiety, with some of my posts about Little Dude. While I don't take these comments personally, I can't just shrug them off. To me, they highlight exactly why we need Autism Awareness Month.
I've been reading your blog for quite a while now...and from everything you've written about Little Dude, he seems like a normal little kid. Yeah, he might be a late bloomer on some things, but every kid is different... What makes you positive he has autism? From what I've read, he just seems like a regular little kid that's maybe just more sensitive than the 'norm'... Everyone has anxieties over school, friends, relationships, homework, etc...That doesn't mean something is necessarily 'wrong' with you, or that you need medication..Everyone has to deal with life, and what life throws at you, that's what growing up is all about....
April 3, 2011 12:23 AM
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Then I wondered if I am romanticizing our situation in my writing. I often write about Little Dude's awesomeness. I don't need or want to write post after post about his flapping hands or the fact that he can spin a Lego guy between his fingers, rocking back and forth and making the same noise over and over, for an hour. I don't want to relive it every damn time he freaks out from being in the smallest crowd, or our inability to go to places that other families take for granted because it will trigger a panic attack.
I don't want to write it. You don't want to read it. Many of you are living it.
Plus, you have to factor in some other issues:
- We don't know what causes autism.
- We don't know how to cure it, nor can we agree on whether autism should be cured.
- No one single technique or group of therapies helps all autistic children.
- Two words: vaccine debate.
And then you've got my kid having what appears to be a tantrum on the floor of the waiting room.
And, you know, "he doesn't look disabled."
He looks like a kid behaving badly. I get it.
To the anonymous commenter, and to those out there who see autism as the diagnosis du jour, I say this: while I hope that autism never touches you personally, I ask for your open-mindedness about what's happening in my family.
He is autistic, whether you see it or not.